Where do I start with this lil man...Since turning 5 and even a lil before his birthday we've been going through some pretty rough changes. I know for such a small person lots of new exciting things in his life can be over whelming, even for him. I can't even begin to express how IN LOVE I am with this boy. He is my oldest and has such a special place in my heart. It saddens me with how he has been lately and I'm new at being a parent of a 5 year old so if you have any advice I'll take it. I don't know what's normal behavior, but things are different with him and it's hard for me. He isn't lovey anymore at all...it's been too long since I've gotten a random "I love you" and hug and when I love on him he pushes away. Is this a beginning of a very long road of "not liking" mom?
I have read a lot about what you should or shouldn't do with your children and I know the most important thing is to just show him attention and love. I have changed my mood in the last couple months to be more calm and attentive to his needs and happiness. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't. He has to be in complete control of everything, he is extremely OCD and I don't know if it's his age or he could be really diagnosed with OCD. It's so bad that we will get into a whole discussion of him getting upset that the blue he is wearing or coloring with is not the right kind of "blue". ....is this normal? That is just one example of many particulars of his life.
I encourage and praise him in all he does, but it just doesn't seem like enough, he still will complain and get upset about everything in life..it's hard to even come up with an example b/c it's constant. I'm at a lose.
Although I guess I can't complain things could always be worse. I am pretty optimistic and see the positive in things. There is a lot about Miles that I can be thankful for. The fact that even though he gets upset he has never been violent, name calling and destructive. When he is getting in trouble he does express his understanding of the situation and promises to be better...so for a 5 year old there is a silver lining.
The other day I made it a point to spend some one on one time with him. We went on a date. Got some ice cream and climbed the red rocks. He was in his own world. Again having to be in control of the whole evening. He kept telling me he was the "leader".
At the end of the evening I asked him if he had fun with me and likes spending time with just mommy...of course his answer is "no, I want to go home and play Minecraft with daddy"...ugh I guess I can't ask for much I know in my heart he had fun even if he doesn't want to tell me that to my face. Maybe things will change when school starts and spending less time with me will make his heart grow founder or maybe it will become worse as he get's older?